Why Do We Talk Better to Strangers Than to Our Own Partners, Children and Family?
October 30, 2019

Familiarity Breeds Contempt – Aesop’s Fables.

Have you ever felt guilty about the way you treat the people closest to you?

In today’s stressful society, it can be too easy to snap at family members, a spouse or your kids in the heat of the moment. How do we stop this?

We all want to be kind to the people close to us, but it can feel like an impossible task. It is so easy to take these people for granted in our lives because they are always there – until they aren’t.

We need to cultivate gratitude for the treasured people in our lives – our partners, children and extended family – because the truth is that life is unpredictable and we don’t know how long they will be with us on this journey.

But this is harder than it sounds. So what are some ways to help us talk better to those closest to us? You could find a life coach in Melbourne to these issues, or you could make a start yourself by reading the rest of this blog post and making use of our handy tips.

Write Gratitude Lists

Perhaps it is time you reminded yourself of all the good there is in the people surrounding you. What are all the things you loved about your partner when you first met them? How are your children special and precious? What valuable lessons have your parents taught you over the years, and how have they helped you become who you are? Writing lists of the good that exists in the people around you can help to reprogram your thinking.

When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around. – Willie Nelson

Any decent life and business coach will be able to testify to the power of gratitude to transform any negative situation in your life. It’s kind of related to positive psychology and coaching in that you are building on what is already strong and good in your life to help overcome the more negative aspects. It’s human nature to pay too much attention to what is negative and to let it cloud our thinking. If you were to hire a personal life coach, their first task would be to tilt your thinking back into positive territory. But you can make a start on this yourself with the powerful act of writing a daily gratitude list.

Imagine They Are Gone

This may seem like a strange exercise, but imagining life without your kids or your partner can be another way of appreciating their presence. For example, if your partner were gone, what would it be like to sleep in an empty bed, to eat dinner alone or to attend parent teacher night by yourself? Thinking of tangible situations that you are in every day and then eliminating those people closest to you could alert you to how lucky you are to have constant company, joyous chaotic children, and the familiar presence of a parent in your life.

Have Time Alone

Even though you might love your family, partner and kids dearly, everyone needs time alone to replenish their energy. Whether your time to relax is a weekly yoga or meditation class, some time doing a creative pursuit, or a walk in nature alone, it can help to restore your energy. Sometimes we are snappy with those we love because we’re burnt out and just don’t have any more fuel left in the tank to be patient and kind. Make sure you look after yourself so that in turn you can treat those around you well.

Make an Appointment with a Life Coach

If you want to learn more and you’re wondering “where can I find a life coach near me?”, look no further than Kylie-Ann Kobelt at Solution Creator. No matter what you need to change in your life, hiring a personal life coach is a great first step so that you have all the support you need to improve your life circumstances. Kylie-Ann will help you reflect on your life and find your true path. Want to get started? Call her now on 0430 112 333.

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Kylie-Ann Kobelt

Kylie-Ann Kobelt

Personal Life Coach, Business Coach & Change Mentor


Hi, I’m Kylie-Ann, it is not the things that happen outside yourself that affect you the most. What goes on inside your head is the most powerful indicator of your success as a person. So, if your thinking becomes clearer and more empowered, so does your life.

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