People often say “Enjoy your children now, they grow up too fast”.
In fact my father uses the expression “Don’t blink or you’ll miss it”.
Seriously, what does that mean to you at twenty years of age, at thirty years and then again at forty years old?
With sincerity I would answer “Yes, I know…It does, doesn’t it?”
I never really took the time or a specific moment to ask myself “What does that really meant to me?”
Not until just a few days ago.
Why now? Because it stood smack bang in front of my face and there was nowhere to hide from it.
Over the past two years I have been working on a project. That was to get my mother to relocate to Victoria from South Australia, to be closer to family which equaled support.
And finally she did.
Yes, it is a big deal and you will get no arguments from me there.
My husband and I arrived, knocked on the door and Mum opened the door and I just stared.
Oh gosh, she really looked terrible. How did this happen? What’s wrong? Who was this person?
Ninety percent of my relationship with my mother has been over the phone. I moved out of home when I was sixteen. I lived on a rural property and I had asked to go to boarding school in Adelaide and I never looked back. Certainly I saw my mother on many occasions over the years. Then I moved interstate and it was less often and she wouldn’t visit as there was no-one to care for her dog. We would always call however over the past twelve months it had become more random then consistent.
I spent the weekend with her cleaning, unpacking and settling into her new home.
In this period it was very comprehensible that time had in reality just blinked by.
Decisions my mother had made in her life, good and bad were like engravings in the paint of an old car abandoned. Slow to move around, tired and drawn looking, skin and bone because of the pain and forgetful as the mind has wondered into the next stage of life before her age had.
She is only sixty-nine. She had decided to only call me when she was having a good day.
It has been seven month since I last saw her and there has been such a rapid decline in her mental and physical health.
If you believe, like I do that perception is projection then I just received a massive slap in the face.
‘My mother’ was what I would qualify as ‘old’. Just like that!
At sixty nine my son, now five year old will be thirty one years old.
I asked myself “How do I want to feel, look and move like when I am at that age?”
I looked at my mother’s and saw what I could learn from her choices in life.
It is not just about how quick our children grow up it is also how quick our parents become old which will be you one day.
So, take a look in the mirror. What does your future hold as you press forward?
Is it how you want it?
Not really…..Ok…..What do you want to do about it?
“Life has no remote, you need to get up and change it yourself ”
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