10 Tips to Increase Resilience to Help you Thrive
January 13, 2021
Kylie-Ann Kobelt

Now you know just how important resilience and grit are in your life when it comes to thriving and succeeding even in the face of adversity, it’s important to know how you can boost yours so you can achieve your full potential.

Here are ten tips you can follow to stand you in good stead for the future:

1.) Be sociable.

It’s vital to have people in your life that you trust and can confide in. With supportive, caring people surrounding you, you have protection even in times of crises. Talking about your problems with loved ones and friends can’t make your problems go away, but it does allow you to receive support, get positive feedback, share your emotions and feelings and to generate potential solutions to the issues you are facing.

2.) Take control.

Waiting for problems to diminish by themselves is pointless and will only prolong the crisis you’re facing. Instead, begin working on how to resolve your issues straight away. True, there may be no simple or speedy solutions, but it’s possible to take steps towards improving your situation and making it less stressful. Start focusing on the progress you’ve already made and plan the next steps in your journey instead of being discouraged by how much remains undone and still has to be accomplished. Working actively on solutions gives you the feeling that you are in control of your life. Instead of waiting for things to take place, be proactive and make your goal a reality.

3.) Expect change.

A key element of resilience is flexibility. If you learn how you can be more adaptable to different circumstances, you will be more equipped to cope if you face a crisis in your life. People who are resilient use such events as a way of branching out in a new direction. Although some people are crushed when they experience an abrupt change, people who are highly resilient learn how to thrive through adaptation.

4.) Move continuously forward.

Although it seems hard, you must not run from the things that frighten you most. By doing the things you fear, you can overcome the fear itself. Moving out of your comfort zone isn’t easy, but once you’ve done it, you will realise that it is possible and, what’s more, it wasn’t as difficult as you may have anticipated. You can deal with all that life throws at you if you approach it head on, meeting it with strength. I always say ‘Eat the frog first’! Another words do the thing that is worst before you tackle anything else and the remainder of your day will be a breeze.

5.) Commit to decision making.

It’s always hard to make a decision. Nobody has every bit of information they need and nobody can understand every eventuality. However, moving forward is impossible until you make a decision one way or another. Commit to making a decision and then commit to the decision that you’ve made. If it’s the wrong choice, learn from it and move in a different direction. Taking action swiftly and resolutely is essential for success, while doubting yourself and failing to decide only herald disaster.

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6.) Lean about yourself

You need to learn how to recognise the things that make you unique and strong then own those things. Everybody has their own strengths and they must be acknowledged. Don’t wait for other people to acknowledge your own strengths – acknowledge them first yourself. Consider keeping a victory log where you journal everything you’ve accomplished during your life. Track the strengths you see in yourself such as hard work, promptness and self-discipline. This allows you to see clearly who you are and why you are successful.

7.) Banish negative self-talk.

Being confident in your own abilities when it comes to coping with life’s stresses has a vital role to play in becoming more resilient. If you’re confident in yourself and your ability to deal with and respond to a crisis, you can cope in the future.

Part of this involves listening out for your own negative self-talk. If you’re constantly putting yourself down or making negative comments inside your head, you need to practice immediately replacing those thoughts with positive ones like “I’m able to do this” or “I’m good at what I do”. I will often use this powerful three letter word at the end of a sentence. “I can’t do this…yet!” Indicating you are just not there yet but you are on your way!

Self-esteem has an important part to play in recovering from adversity and coping with stress, so remind yourself consistently of your accomplishment and strengths.

8.) Accept that bad things happen.

Avoid dwelling on past events and STOP giving yourself a hard time about the things that have already happened. It isn’t the negative event itself that hurts you, but rather the things you say to yourself when it has happened. To be successful, you need to talk positively to yourself. See negative events as merely temporary and keep a mindset that is future-oriented so you can enjoy lifelong happiness. Bad things will inevitably occur during your life but accepting this and facing the bad things in the future with strength is essential.

9.) Practice optimism.

Maintaining a positive outlook and approach to life isn’t always easy but remember that successful people aren’t negative. Believe that life can be better and it will become better. To achieve this, count the things you have to be thankful for and journal them. This helps to cultivate greater optimism in your life.

10.) Practice compassion.

If you’re feeling stressed out, it’s very easy to overlook your needs and to neglect your well-being. Not eating properly, forgoing regular exercise and sleeping badly may be common reactions when you’re coping with a crisis, but none of these things will help you to develop grit and resilience in the face of adversity.

Rather, focus on how you can up hold yourself. Show yourself the compassion that you would show to others who are going through a difficult time. Take time to do the things you enjoy. Look after your physical and mental well-being. Meditate, relax and de-stress. If you care for yourself and show yourself respect and compassion, you will boost your health overall and improve your resilience so you can truly face the challenges of life and overcome them effectively.


Kylie-Ann Kobelt

Kylie-Ann Kobelt

Personal Life Coach, Business Coach & Change Mentor


Hi, I’m Kylie-Ann, it is not the things that happen outside yourself that affect you the most. What goes on inside your head is the most powerful indicator of your success as a person. So, if your thinking becomes clearer and more empowered, so does your life.

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